“Selfie Meeting!”

A little boy was waiting on the edge of the road as if he wanted to cross the road. He was waiting there looking left and right for quite some time. A shop keeper was noticing the boy and was now concerned as to why the boy was not crossing. He thought, may be the boy needed help.

He came up to the boy and keeping his hand on his shoulder asked, “Hey, I have been seeing you now for a while standing on the edge of the road, as if you wanted to cross the road.” Boy said, “Yes, I do”. “Then why are you not crossing?” Shopkeeper asked.

Boy said, “I am waiting and looking for an empty space to pass before me to cross the road.”

–   Osho
Last Wednesday, I was almost awake the whole night as there were many thoughts crossing mind and was practically lost in thinking and talking to myself. I was fresh the next morning. By the time I reached office, I was running a little late than my normal schedule.

A friend, Aniruddha, who is also the co-founder of a start-up at our hub came for our usual morning catch up. I just told him casually that I was late because I had a “Selfie Meeting” last night.”…….. But then I really liked what I said…

Just as we take selfies, we must take time out to meet ourselves and self-reflect. We should have a talk with ourselves, joke with ourselves and learn to enjoy our own company. Renowned Sage Pujya Murari Bapu was once asked: “Bapu, what you do when you travel?” And Murari Bapu gave a simple but profound answer: “I do Prakriti Darshan. (I observe nature) Sometimes I see external nature and sometimes internal.”

In our discussion, Aniruddha mentioned something about undercurrent of waves. We spoke about the waves on the surface of the ocean rise because there are waves and currents deep below in the ocean where even the light cannot reach. These water currents sustain the life deep in the ocean. I could connect this thought with self and realized that occasionally, we must take a deep dive into self and experience these inner waves and inner currents that keep our inner-self alive.

My elder son Kshitij is a dance teacher and a professional choreographer. Many a times we have discussion on offbeat subjects. Once I asked him, how do different choreographers design and choreograph the same song in a completely different manner. Kshitij said, “Dad, the music track has some obvious beats and subtle beats. It depends on the choreographer as to which beat he/she is picking up and visualizing the sequence. A new choreography would evolve each time.”

The boy was not seeing cars that were passing by but was looking for X              X  (empty space) to come before him so that he could go through. Between two thoughts, there is an empty space. Usually, we keep jumping from one thought to another and hence our mind is always occupied and cluttered with thoughts. The day we start focusing on the empty space in between two thoughts and keep jumping from one empty space to the other, we will experience the blissful state of emptiness which we call meditation. With a little practice and discipline, we can experience such a state even in the middle of a busy day.

We plan meetings. One after the other. The whole day – literally the whole life appears busy, heavily packed, and the time is spent in meetings after meetings and more meetings. If that’s the way we are structured to live, should we not schedule our calendars in a manner where we can have regular meetings with ourselves?? Like Swami Vivekananda said, “Talk to yourself once in a day….otherwise you may miss meeting an Excellent person in this world.”







SIDNEY SHELDON wrote an awesome fiction suspense titled “A Stranger in the Mirror”. Do we really know who we see every day in the mirror? Do we try and decode that person? Are we comfortable with the person in the mirror?

Are we feeling the inner waves? Are we picking up the subtle beats? Do we look for the empty spaces? Do we plan ‘selfie meetings’?

Chal beta selfie le le re!


My son Kshitij has choreographed film ‘Bajrangi Bhaijaan’s’ song – Chal beta selfie le le re!  With team DanceStation.


I am reminded of Jagjit Singh’s awesome Ghazal:

अपनी मर्ज़ी से कहाँ अपने सफर के हम हैं ?
रुख हवाओ का जिधर का है उधर के हम हैं l

Apani marzi se kahan apane safar ke hum hain?
rukh hawaon ka jeedhar ka hai, udhar ke hum hain.

My travel is not decided by me, I am driven by the direction of the wind.


About rajivvaishnav

Rajiv Vaishnav Managing Partner Cornerstone Venture Partners Rajiv is Managing Partner at Cornerstone Venture Partners, a global tech VC fund focused on Consumer business enablers (such as Applied AI) and Enterprise / SME BI solutions (vertical SaaS, AR & VR applications, Blockchain for enterprise, etc.). Cornerstone is a Pre-series A / Series A fund, the first institutional support for promising tech ventures enabling growth and customer access in unique ways. Rajiv brings over 35 years of solid experience in building brands, developing teams, expanding the market share and building organisations from grass root upwards. He was heading the Ecosystem & Partnerships Developmentt at Jio-GenNext Hub, A Reliance Enterprise. In this role, Rajiv is responsible to evangelize the Start-Up ecosystem, identify and connect with the deserving start-ups, academia, government agencies, mentors, angel investors and VC networks globally. Since 2002 till end of 2015, Rajiv was an integral part of NASSCOM’s senior management team. He headed NASSCOM’s first regional office in Mumbai and grown to manage the membership outreach nationally. He initiated many path breaking initiatives at NASSCOM including Cyber Safety initiatives with enforcement agencies, start-up incubators with State Governments under 10K Startup programme, evangelised Animation and Gaming industry and nurtured it, lead the ISO Standards initiative to establish a Global BPO and Product Quality Framework Standards out of India. He helped establish NASSCOM’s emerge forum in its formative days. At NASSCOM, he was enthusiastic about developing new IT destinations in the country, and fostering platforms for Industry-academia interactions as he believed that these were the two most critical requirements for the Indian IT industry to maintain its globally advantageous position. Rajiv was a member of AICTE (WR) and of IQAC of the SNDT Women’s University and Trustee at Dewang Mehta Foundation Trust. With Harish Mehta, the first President of TiE, Mumbai and the first Chairman of NASSCOM, Rajiv co-founded TiE in India. He built the organisation bottoms-up and nurtured the start-up ecosystem in India since early 2000. He got early exposure to work with TiE in Silicon Valley and investors, entrepreneurs and mentors such as Kanwal Rekhi, Suhas Patil, Desh Deshpande, Sridhar Iyengar, Raj Jaswa, Shabir Bhatia, Raj Desai and many others… He has worked with Indo-American Chamber of Commerce (IACC), Franchising Association of India (FAI) and US- Environment Resource Center (US-ERC). In the corporate sector, his experience includes stints with two U.S. Freight Forwarding giants Emery Worldwide and Air Express International in sales & marketing. In 2000, Rajiv was invited by the U.S. Government to participate in their International Visitors programme on US Trade and World Market. Rajiv has administered several outward trade delegations including those to International Franchise Expo ’99, USA, Emerging Companies delegations to CeBIT Australia and Silicon Valley. He has represented NASSCOM in the International Advisors Council to the Mayor of Luwan District in Shanghai, China and E-Sports Symposium in Seoul, Korea. Rajiv is a Science graduate from Mumbai University. He is passionate about music and literature. His blog url:
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1 thought on ““Selfie Meeting!”

  1. What an amazing post! You can’t pour from an empty cup. Make time for yourself, after all YOU are important!

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