Family, Life

In Search of My Hanger!

In the suburbs of Florida, his house was damaged in the last thunderstorm. David Goldrich, 65 engaged John Peterson who was in his early forties, to help him with his multi-skill professional services of carpentry, plumbing, electrical and for other ancillary work. It was at least 45+ days of assignment. John was very regular, dedicated and sincere in his work. Over time both David and John became good friends. David too was helping John in his work.

One morning John was late and after a while called David that his car broke down while on his way, around 3 miles away from David’s house and hence he would be delayed. David volunteered to drive down to help John reach his car to the service station for repairs and both came to David’s house for the day’s work.

In the evening, with a lot of hesitation John surrendered to David’s insistence of dropping him home. John invited David for a coffee to his house to which David agreed. As they parked the car in the porch, John turned and went to a big tree in his garden, placed his hands on the bark of the tree for a while and came to knock the door of his house. His charming wife opened the door. His sweet little daughter came running and jumped on him, giving him a kiss and a tight hug. His dog Caesar, demanding attention, kept on jumping and barking at him till he picked him up in his lap….it was a great welcome and an awesome return home for John after a long day of work.

David was amazed with this joyful and loving reception. While John introduced the family to David and settled in on the cozy sofa, David was anxious to ask John about what he saw outside just before they entered the house.

He asked, “John, just before you knocked the door, you went to the tree and did something. What was that?”

John smiled and said. “Oh that,….Haha, David that tree is my hanger. Every evening when I come home, I place my hands on the bark of the tree as I consider it as my hanger to place my entire day’s fatigue, tension, excursion, anxieties, issues, problems etc., and plan to pick them up next morning, only then I get in to my home. Invariably, the next morning, when I start my day and reach out to my hanger again to pick up yesterday’s baggage, I find nothing there. It helps me to start each day afresh.”

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We carry work and worries back home every evening. During the day, we engage with the external world from the time we step out of the house and place a mask on our face. We smile, be polite, be courteous, be collaborative, cooperative, prompt, vocal etc., with our colleagues and business acquaintances.  In the evening, as we reach home, the fatigue starts overpowering us, we think we can afford to drop our masks and be the way we want to be, now we don’t need to impress anyone and just be ourselves……and we enter our house tired, exhausted and sometimes cranky.

My wife Ketki is a home maker. Her contribution is huge in our family. We live with our parents and as we had twins after an elder son, Ketki had a handful of life, hence decided to forgo her professional aspirations. She would always tell me that she wished I would extend my worldly facade for a little longer as I come home. She said “the whole day we wait for the evening, for you to come home. And when you come, for the next 10-15 minutes if you could continue to hold the same energy, smile and outlook when you enter the house, we all would love that.” ….to be honest, I am still trying, with some successes and multiple failed attempts.

If I recall correctly it was Prakash Rohera, Corporate Trainer, who mentioned something that I loved, –

“Don’t just ENTER, make an ENTRY!”

– Let this be my resolution for 2018.
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बहुत पहले से उन क़दमों की आहट जान लेते हैं,
तुझे ज़िंदगी हम दूर से पहचान लेते हैं I

bahut pahle se un qadmoñ aahaT jaan lete haiñ
tujhe ai zindagī ham duur se pahchān lete haiñ

Can sense your presence from a distance….O life.(O love).

 

About rajivvaishnav

Rajiv Vaishnav Managing Partner Cornerstone Venture Partners Rajiv is Managing Partner at Cornerstone Venture Partners, a global tech VC fund focused on Consumer business enablers (such as Applied AI) and Enterprise / SME BI solutions (vertical SaaS, AR & VR applications, Blockchain for enterprise, etc.). Cornerstone is a Pre-series A / Series A fund, the first institutional support for promising tech ventures enabling growth and customer access in unique ways. Rajiv brings over 35 years of solid experience in building brands, developing teams, expanding the market share and building organisations from grass root upwards. He was heading the Ecosystem & Partnerships Developmentt at Jio-GenNext Hub, A Reliance Enterprise. In this role, Rajiv is responsible to evangelize the Start-Up ecosystem, identify and connect with the deserving start-ups, academia, government agencies, mentors, angel investors and VC networks globally. Since 2002 till end of 2015, Rajiv was an integral part of NASSCOM’s senior management team. He headed NASSCOM’s first regional office in Mumbai and grown to manage the membership outreach nationally. He initiated many path breaking initiatives at NASSCOM including Cyber Safety initiatives with enforcement agencies, start-up incubators with State Governments under 10K Startup programme, evangelised Animation and Gaming industry and nurtured it, lead the ISO Standards initiative to establish a Global BPO and Product Quality Framework Standards out of India. He helped establish NASSCOM’s emerge forum in its formative days. At NASSCOM, he was enthusiastic about developing new IT destinations in the country, and fostering platforms for Industry-academia interactions as he believed that these were the two most critical requirements for the Indian IT industry to maintain its globally advantageous position. Rajiv was a member of AICTE (WR) and of IQAC of the SNDT Women’s University and Trustee at Dewang Mehta Foundation Trust. With Harish Mehta, the first President of TiE, Mumbai and the first Chairman of NASSCOM, Rajiv co-founded TiE in India. He built the organisation bottoms-up and nurtured the start-up ecosystem in India since early 2000. He got early exposure to work with TiE in Silicon Valley and investors, entrepreneurs and mentors such as Kanwal Rekhi, Suhas Patil, Desh Deshpande, Sridhar Iyengar, Raj Jaswa, Shabir Bhatia, Raj Desai and many others… He has worked with Indo-American Chamber of Commerce (IACC), Franchising Association of India (FAI) and US- Environment Resource Center (US-ERC). In the corporate sector, his experience includes stints with two U.S. Freight Forwarding giants Emery Worldwide and Air Express International in sales & marketing. In 2000, Rajiv was invited by the U.S. Government to participate in their International Visitors programme on US Trade and World Market. Rajiv has administered several outward trade delegations including those to International Franchise Expo ’99, USA, Emerging Companies delegations to CeBIT Australia and Silicon Valley. He has represented NASSCOM in the International Advisors Council to the Mayor of Luwan District in Shanghai, China and E-Sports Symposium in Seoul, Korea. Rajiv is a Science graduate from Mumbai University. He is passionate about music and literature. His blog url: www.rajivvaishnav.com
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